Thursday, 31 May 2012

Summer Breeze



Last day in May. So it goes.

The plan, on fortnightly cleaner day, after checking the weather forecast and the tide times, was an early morning walk along the coast at the West Witterings beach then home, via the detour of Horsham Museum, which I figured wouldn't be too bad as the boys would sleep, to collect the 1940's Reminiscence box that we had ordered in to collect today, in time for S to go dog walking at 2pm.

A month or so ago inspired by: Carries War, Lion Witch & Wardrobe and a few other historical fiction books S, 7, was really into all things Second World War which is why I ordered in the box. It was already out on loan to someone else though hence the wait. The thing S was most keen to see was the gas mask. Along with art, history is her main area of interest. She wants the gas mask to wear when O has his nappy changed :-O

Today didn't exactly go to plan though as firstly I had to wake S, 7,  and O, 3,  up, I am often tempted to post on facebook to ask why it is that my children wake up so early except on the one day per fortnight when they have to wake up early but then I remember that the majority of parents wake their children everyday and that waking up naturally is actually a luxury not all children afford.

S didn't want to get out of the car at Witterings, eventually we persuaded her down on to the beach, no one wanted to go for a walk, O wanted to build castles then the wind blew sand in E's eyes and he screamed so loud for so long it was probably audible on the Isle of Wight. So, after eating the chocolate brownies I made first thing this morning in the car we headed to Horsham. As there was no walk no one fell asleep and there was all the fidgeting associated with 80 miles in the car. The staff had advised the box was very big and to pull up outside which I did. We have walked to Horsham Museum many, many times but as we approached I realised I had no idea of the way in by car! Totally disorientated myself but it all worked out okay.


 S looks at the various ration books

 and tries on the dungarees ready to help with the war time effort.
The, much anticipated, gas mask
 The outside the boxers open the box


Windy morning at the beach. The second day in a row O has sported his pyjama top on the sand.



Everyone crashed out early than me last night so I took the opportunity to do some household economics  as several annual statements have landed on the mat in recent days and I have been wondering how we can fund several big purchases we will soon need to make. Depressing and inspiring all the same time. How is 80% of our monthly income spoken for before we even move!? Our average monthly food spend is coming in around £1000 per month irrespective of whether the month has 4 or 5 weeks. Shocking at first glance but that covers all meals as TDO takes lunch to work and all food eaten away from the home is included as are detergents, loo rolls and so on. Broken down to 3 meals per day for 5 people it actually comes in around £2 per person per meal which seems pretty reasonable really given that we are all meat eaters and consume a large percentage of organic produce.

Past attempts at budgeting have been less than successful. A major switch of utility providers a couple of years ago saw us without a bill for a year due to administrative error, changing insurance providers left us under insured when we needed to claim and cutting back on food spend seems to guarantee we eat more carbohydrates and less protein and fruit with the obvious impact on health.

These thoughts have provided an interesting backdrop to going through the ration books with S this afternoon.

In Other News

Does anyone record a bar chart, I'd love to know if this is the statistical peak time of year for road kill as, on our 80 miles North to South of West Sussex today S and I have spotted: one large deer, several foxes, as well as badgers, rabbits, pheasants (or peasants as my sons call them. "Look at that peasant in the road.") and hedgehogs. I believe some people find them a cheap source of nutrition!

Wednesday, 30 May 2012

2012 Gallivants so far



One of the really popular posts on the blog is the one where I wrapped up all of our 2011 gallivants in a single post, 22 museums I think it was last year, given that we are approaching  June it seemed a sensible point to wrap up what's been in the gallivanting schedule so far in 2012.

Learning outside and away from a desk setting is at the heart of our life learning, home education philosophy. Why read about a famous painting when you can go and see it?

As the famous John Holt says


"We need to get kids out of the school buildings, and give them a chance to learn about the world at first hand. It is a very recent idea, and a crazy one, that the way to teach our young people about the world they live in is to take them out of it and shut them up in brick boxes. Aside from their parents, most children never have any close contact with any adults except people whose sole business is children. No wonder they have no idea what adult life or work is like." ~ John Holt ~

For new readers most posts are named after jazz and soul song titles in case you were thinking some of the headings were a little strange



Revisits in 1st half 2012

Legoland for O's 3rd birthday. It rained all day but we didn't have to queue!

The ever popular, Museum of Childhood been a  couple of times already this year.

Sea life Centre in Brighton. It has just reopened after major refurbishment. Not that impressed really.

Intech x 2

Pallant House Art Gallery in Chichester ~  2 visits and 2 workshops

Wisley Gardens for the butterflies

Bignor Roman Villa ~ renewed our friends membership

Fishbourne Roman Palace

Hove Museum

Fishers Farm Park ~ we have been members here for 5 years now and visit most weeks


Warnham Nature Reserve

Arundel Wildfowl and Wetlands - we are members here





New places to us visited so far  in 2012


Gaston farm - which S loves so much she went back three times

Brighton Toy Museum

Lego mania ~ I think Et thought this was better than legoland

Watts Gallery - S, 7, said this was the best activity pack ever and still enjoys looking at it now


Bramber Castle

Royal Academy Arts  for David Hockney exhibition

Haslemere Museum - S & E both say this is now their best all round museum

Petworth House - We have made three trips now using the home educators National Trust Membership. A bargain at £36 for the whole family for the year.



Upcoming gallivants planned so far

Revisits to Centre Parcs, Longleat and Marwell Zoos and a first visit to the brand new Novium in Chichester are all on the calender for the next couple of months.


If you are in Sussex, Surrey, Hampshire or London and have been somewhere you think we'd like do let us know :)

Tides iiii



We have had a fabulous summer day's gallivanting today in glorious West Sussex. First stop was Petworth House with Grandma for a stroll around the grounds, coffee and S, O and Mum looked at the art and inside the house. S just loves it there, whilst E and I played hide and seek in the grounds and waited for them then, Mum headed home and we headed to Goring Beach to meet 8 or 9 other of the loveliest, local home educating families for a play in the sea and rock pooling (mostly dead crabs.) It was misty at first but lifted to a beautiful sunny afternoon.

Regular readers will know I have found group meetings a bit overwhelming lately but S was so thrilled to see a BFF she hasn't seen in months it was worth it just to see her face. They were inseparable for a couple of hours playing in the rock pools. E was pretty together too we managed not to unravel and make it home all still smiling :) 

Before we left this morning the trio made thank-you cards for the Lego their paternal grandparents gave them at the weekend - knocked over by the accuracy of E's drawing of his star wars set as he is not generally much of a drawer.


Goring Beach

 S did this face, E wrote his name in the sand and O did another O much better than the one on Saturday. Unschooling in action!
 A digger on the beach.


 Petworth House & Gardens





 E's drawing and the lego craft below.

Tuesday, 29 May 2012

Breathing Light iiii


Well, the first thing to share with you today is that my hair has been cut and my legs, underarms and eye brows waxed. A huge relief to be de-fuzzed in this heat and smooth ready for holiday. If only there was a non-dentist (i.e painless and relatively cheap) way to sort this rapidly widening gap between my top two front teeth I wouldn't feel too bad about the, fortnight off forty, face looking back at me from the mirror.

S has been a Jekyl and Hyde this past 24. She was a horror of overtired, didn't eat very much all day, horrors last night and ended the day in a very sour way after her playday **sigh**, not even making it over to the allotment with TDO who went with Baby Small instead and this morning, despite sleeping in til around 9am, she had a mega temper tantrum too. 

Mum arrived first thing to be greeted by the cutest spontaneous "I've missed you Grandma." from O, she took S & E swimming after breakfast; for a couple of hours and whilst they were gone O and I worked through a Disney Pixar Cars cars activity book, you know the kind of thing with stickers, dot-to-dot colouring and so on. This wasn't the plan, I did have a list of adult household jobs but he was so into it and really enjoyed it so we just kept going!

E needed new goggles at the pool as his old ones broke, very cool, I must take a goggles photo of the trio

Anyway, shortly after swimming S exploded again. Thankfully as my Mum was here I was able to take her for a walk to let off steam.


I literally just walked out of the door, putting her shoes on as we went,  when all my suggestions of punching a pillow instead of your brother, drawing a picture of your angry feelings etc etc etc had failed. It is so great to have an extra pair of hands to be able to do this. I thought fast that I didn't want to walk up the hill to towards the butcher as the road is hot, noisy and a bit narrow and I wasn't sure how it would be and the walk down the hill to the train station is associated with days out so I crossed the road, thinking that the swings were not really appropriate I stayed on the pavement and after a while of just walking holding hands not saying much S started to hang back and squeeze my hand.......I couldn't think why then I realised we were approaching the village school and I think she thought I was taking her there!!

She came with me to the hairdressers today and was a delight telling them all about her new lucky duck from Whitby and playing with the jute box, we took into two libraries (to order in some more of the DC Heroes Superhero books E is enjoying so much) and a couple of shops on the way, including looking a possible new bikes for E and she was fabulous, chatiing to Philly when she came to wax my legs, until later on after supper when it all erupted again. Average. Average is fine by me. I don't need these high highs and low lows in my day.



Otherwise it has been allotment (two trips because S didn't want to go with E) , Whitby lucky ducks, Fimo ducks, chalking on the patio, talking to Grandma about the Roman Mysteries dolls project and Grandma's holiday, boys playing lego, metal cars and playmobil......

If only the trio would stop arguing it would all be pretty perfect.

In Other News

O made these duplo bat phones whilst we were having supper and we had to call Robin! totally spontaneously. V cool.

Finally bought a tangle teaser hairbrush at the hairdressers today. Why did I wait so long? In only a few hours it has done for hairbrushing what electric toothbrushes did for toothbrushing! Keep it sparkly.

Monday, 28 May 2012

Be Thankful for What You've Got iiii

So it goes, another 24 have past in the life of the gallivanters. Only the 50 miles today mind!



& if I stop this flow..............
 E has grown so much that last year's towelling hoody which was more of a dress length for Summer 11 now just brushes his bum!


I've used this song on the blog before but it chimes with the eighties theme and the words have a strong resonance with me.

Impromptu movie night last night after the Grandparents left. "Atlantis 2 ~ Milo's Return." gotta love a Disney sequel. Accompanied by salad from the allotment! In May! Fabulous & tasty it was too.


And today, back from holiday, my regular morning call with my Mum returns and the day starts out right. 


After an emergency stop for a nose bleed (S) that saw me pull off into a petrol station and commit myself to the car wash track......... we dropped S at her friends in Horsham for  the whole day today TDO is picking her up on his way home from work.


These nose bleeds must be a genetic summer trait as TDO had one last night too. 


And the boys and I headed to Fishers Farm for some sunny splash attack fun. It has been really warm again today and I have the makings of the patented (although I can't recall by who) classic home ed Mum tan - bits of feet outside of sandals, hands and shoulders only. No all over action for me! The boys are looking gorgeously sun~kissed too. Great to see the back of the winter grey. It is about 27oC today.

We shared Fishers Farm today with an organised trip from "Little Rascals" day nursery & preschool and a variety of children clutching Linus style security blankets. Am I alone in finding such negative "Here comes trouble / Junior Asbo" labelling of children offensive? You couldn't call a retirement home Old Crinkleys so why is Little Rascals okay?

Whilst we were at Fishers Farm the new enquiry into "Support" for home educators was announced, I read about it whilst rather comfortably supported by a deck chair. I don't suspect that it is the new Badman review but I do say that my support (as I define the word support) comes from my family. My parents and my husband, for whatever the rhetoric on family at the core of society might be the idea that anyone, who could, would decline the idea of paid work and paying the minimum wage to someone to care for their children or using the free child care offered by the state school  system is so far removed from the current Zeitgeist as to be almost unimaginable I suspect.


Apparently the enquiry will look at financial support - brings me to recycle my phrase from the last time such issues were debated:~

"Skint and free is how I'd rather be!"

It will be interesting to see how it evolves. Graham Stuart MP is on the committee which can only be a good thing because he really "gets" home ed - I shall compose a reply but for now I want to go and play lego Star Wars with my son!


In Other News
I forgot to tell you yesterday, at the park, E was, once again, mistaken for a girl, but instead of saying anything he let the boy go on and on

"Why has that girl got a motorbike on her top?" the boy said to me. Funny as on the way to the park a very glam gang of girls on motorbikes in striking pink and white leathers had past us and, anyway, E said "Yeah, I'm a girl." and then beat them at whatever game they were playing - he was very cool and almost pool or poker hustler chic about it...........umm........Probably shouldn't have been impressed but sort of was!!



  • E, 5, is loving his new Star Wars lego - it has reinvigorated his existing sets and he is currently filing a battle scene using his best youtube, product assessment, narrators voice.

  • Tomorrow sees my final leg wax and final haircut of my thirties - I am really looking forward to it as both are long overdue.





Really, really sad news that a 32 year old man drowned trying too save a child adrift in an inflatable at a beach near us at the weekend. My thoughts have been with his family since I heard the news. A beach I turned down 3 invitations to visit last week as it is a place I remember well from my childhood. I remember my Dad lost his wedding ring there mucking about in the sea, known by locals for its strong winds and undercurrents the no inflatables signs were, apparently, on display. Such a sad start to the summer season. We will visit again, maybe this week but I felt strongly that I wanted out first visit of the year to be as a family so that I could talk to the trio about how the water there can shelve and how the tide can hide the lagoons.
And how, because you can swim in a rectangular swimming pool, you might not be able to do the same in the sea. The sea is a totally different scenario, there are no sides to swim too, no handy numbers painted on the sides telling you how deep it is and there are currents and waves that can drift you along. I recall that experience as  child at the Witterings, exiting the sea from a very different place to where I had entered it.


My maternal Grandparents had a holiday caravan not far from there when I was a child, I recall sun-burning my back to a blister and my Grandad falling asleep with a pocket of loose change money and burning his leg. I can remember being sucked under by the huge waves, maybe they weren't huge but when I was small they felt large to me! Recently a childhood friend with whom I spent much time at the Witterings as child reminded me how her parents chastised her for NOT taking sweets from a stranger there one day. Oh! The 1970s! Funny how when something sad or bad happens in a place all of your memories of that place come flooding back.




Sunday, 27 May 2012

Solid



Are you enjoying these eighties club classics?  Close second for today was Jump to The Beat after a run of related tunes in recent days. Our little jumper seems to be jumping less these days. Maybe it is the heat.

If you are the parent of a young baby and anyone should ask you if they "sleep through the night" Just ignore them. 8 year olds have nightmares, 15 year olds need collecting from youth clubs, 35 year olds move back home.....Expectations management. Parenting is a 24/7 commitment.

If you are questioned about whether  you toddler has expired the terrible twos tantruming phase I can assure that much older children (and adults including me) are regularly so overwhelmed by the frustrations and inequities of life that they too become overwhelmed with it all and lose the plot. Better to work out ways of dealing with it at the time rather than wishing that it wouldn't happen at all.

After two nights of decent rest perspective is restored and everything seems achievable once again. 

Even S entirely upending her bedroom seconds before the in laws arrived didn't phase me today.


Paternal grandparents arrived this morning bringing not only kindly today's (& the final) free star wars lego but gifts of lego (9488, 4595, 3936) from their recent holiday in America.

Lazy lunch, grand prix, park (where E lost his croc (crooks!) inside a net........which necessitated an epic retrival. and allotment have been the shape of things today. 
Radish from the allotment for supper when we returned from the beacj last night.


Really great week planned. Smething everyday, several beach meets, fishers farm, play~dates, swimming, only 3 days on my own and then 2 weeks of holiday.

Thhe fact that at the end of it all ill be 40 seems a minor detail, I'll have to change the words at the top of the blog.

E's reading making steady daily progress and has become such a part of our day, like toothbrushing in routine, that i keep forgetting to record on the blog.

and in all this the best advantage of all is that it is silencing the biological clock which seems to tick more loudly with every passing monthly cycle because I know I really couldn't manage.


Saturday, 26 May 2012

I Found Lovin



What can be a challenge  with one is a pleasure with two and suddenly in 24 hours it's all transformed and changed. 

That extra pair of hands on the weekend makes the highest peak seem navigable.


The new sleeping arrangements a huge success. O slept in til 9:30am and S till 9am - no wonder the week has been so rough and tough with 3 or 4 hours less sleep per night than is required. Getting up at 5am when, left to your own devices closer to nine would be better, can't be nice.


So the lark, E, 5 and I headed off out early to Horsham to collect the penultimate free lego a ninjago set and run a few errands together. 1 on 1 he is a delight and a pleasure unrecognisable from the attention deficient sibling.


S had another mega allotment session last night TDO says she pleases herself making lotions and potions here and there - mostly strongly scented ones to put the carrot fly off the trial and is totally self sufficient judging what needs to be watered and so on.


The rest of the day has seen, in no particular order of importance or chronology: Fimo, chalking on the patio, O inventing with water and funnels, a new dragon game on the tablet, re inspired lego thanks to the new, much lighter, location; grand prix qualifying and the usual cooking, in preparation for a visit from The Smalls paternal grandparents tomorrow and, of course, eating.

There seems to have been no transition from winter to summer this year. In the past 72 hours we have made the transition from central heating on cold weather schedule to searching out the fan that we didn't need at all last summer.

S is really enjoying the "Time Travelling Cat" by Julia Jarman and used it as her hangman on the patio today.

Around 4pm we headed down to the Beach, Littlehampton,we have found from past experience that late Saturday afternoon / early evening suits our complexions, temperaments and tide times when a weekend of good weather is forecast

O, who was 3 last month, drew an O in the sand at the beach tonight. first time he has done that.

Thanks for all the lovely messages after yesterdays rather depressing post. Your support means more than you know :)  






Friday, 25 May 2012

Can You Handle It?

Today I have swapped talking and replaced it with barking. The reason is very simple. Tiredness. The boys crashed out early last night due to lack of siesta and TDO took S to the allotment thinking I might have grabbed a few hours to myself but, alas, no the boys woke upon rotation until about just before 5am when we finally decided that we might as well get up.

Cue sense of humour failure from me.

It was sort of okay until they woke up S, the lack of respect drives me nuts! She didn't go to bed until 10:30pm after a warm evening at the allotment. How do other home ed families that don't live in mansions manage this?

Surprisingly she woke totally buzzing

"I've had this dream about Roman Mysteries dolls and I am not sure if they are real or I imagined them so I must google them straight away."

When she discovered they were a product of her imagination she drew them out to show me and later asked if it would be possible to make some. I have been pondering on the logistics of this today. The two characters she wants to make first are Flavia and Nubia, a book titled Operation Roman Mysteries has been started and I am pondering the availability of a 'gossamer thin' blue stolla

No gym on my final Friday morning of membership. By the time Weed, wearing her smart sandals, arrived we had already been up 5 hours and I was loosing the power of speech, my eyes so tired and gritty that my contacts kept falling out. Had a mighty loss of temper with E this morning. Nothing what so ever to be proud of.  Awful. Have been in tears about it several times since. He drives me utterly bonkers sometimes because he doesn't seem to listen or retain information. Today Weed asked him, quite rightly, to stop drawing on some wood, not that we want to stop a future Banksy in the making but the basic principle that you ask before drawing on anything other than paper seems to have been a pretty sensible one for the last 7 years, anyway it took several attempts before the information was processed. When I am tired i just can't do it.

We really should have gone out this afternoon, two whole home days during beach standard weather is a tragedy and hilights everything that annoys me about the lack of fluidity between our house and garden but around noon our youngest member crashed out on the sofa for a couple of hours leaving a very small window before TDO arrived home,

probably wise in hindsight although the thought of a gang of our friends at Witterings

E tried to ride his two wheeler this afternoon and he has totally grown out of it over the winter his knees knock the handlebars

Not one to be  negative without action tonight TDO and I have engineered major furniture rearranging swapping around the dark lego room with a bright grandma's room in the hope that some of us might sleep in a little later than 5am Not an ideal job for a hot afternoon but hopefully will pay dividends. S finds change very tough though and has been sad about it today. We have assured her it is not for long, just til Autumn when we can move it all around again!

She had a couple of hours 1:1 at the allotment again tonight and was able to air some of her frustrations.

Well the red onions in the veg box started me off today and I have shed many tears since, a week without a Grandma day and no gym with attached exercise endorphins and very little sleep has really taken its toll

Thank goodness for home ed, I'd never have made the school run.



Thursday, 24 May 2012

When You Are Who You Are

 When You Are Who You Are

Great words - Love GSH





This past 24 finds me feeling much more positive than yesterday's post. Thankfully! We have had an accidental home day caused by everyone sleeping later than normal and laundry and a shopping delivery rather contracting our going out window. We had thought of Bignor or Fishers Farm or a return to the beach as it has been really sunny but none of it came together.

Both the boys generally fall asleep in the car on journeys of more than 20 minutes after 2pm which means a resultant late night for everyone. There are only so many of those on the bounce I can handle!

So S and I read a Wonder Woman story last night and a Julia Jarman this morning. Although she is probably a more accomplished reader than me it is nice to indulge in reading together and helps enforce the connections I spoke of yesterday.

We have had some time in the garden too but otherwise been pretty lazy and done our best to relax despite the persistent builder noise from next door continuing. E made a card for a friend of his and we posted it together on our brief trip out to the butchers and library (to drop off some books that were duplicates from Horsham's automated system on Monday that hadn't properly checked out on our cards.

Only one argument of note during which E ripped a Barbie Petite's skirt - Wasn't all bad as S and I landed up making a new one for her - her waist circumference is under 1cm

 This is the begonia my friend Barb gave me as a house plant - doing well in the garden with some pansy friends :)




This is the celery inspired by Lightly Enchanted now living in soil.

Only 6 more working days til TDO is off for a fortnight and our Centre Parcs holiday for my 40th and Grandma will be here for two of those six days.